Seven ways to teach a child to be grateful
We all want children to say “thank you”, but it is even more important that they learn to appreciate
” Here I try for him, I try, I do everything for him, I buy everything for him, and he won’t even say thank you!”- moms and dads often complain. And children simply do not always know how to appreciate what is done for them, and if they do, they do not know how to express their gratitude. You can help them learn to be grateful if you follow these 7 tips:
1. Tell them about this feeling
The child doesn’t know what it’s like to feel grateful. The task of parents is to teach their children to recognize emotions. Tell us how to respond if you want to say “thank you”. Catch the moment when the baby can feel it and pay attention to it. In addition, the usual rule of “say thank you” also has not been canceled. Don’t expect your child to learn everything the first time. Be patient and repeat the practice.
2. Explain the example
Our children don’t understand that they are very lucky. That their childhood is filled with toys, gadgets, opportunities, and interesting pastimes. Irritated to say “you don’t appreciate your happiness! I didn’t have anything at all when I was a kid” – it’s like saying nothing. The child doesn’t take your word for it. He doesn’t understand what it’s like when there’s NOTHING. But if you collect a bag of toys with your child or buy a pack of notebooks and pencils for children in an orphanage, because they do not have them, it will be much clearer. Do not frighten with scary stories about orphans and beggars, no, just show (for example, books, movies, stories) that not all people have so many opportunities, and many children dream of such a train, or a doll, or a trip to the sea with their parents. That is why we are happy that we have this train! We appreciate it, we are grateful for it.
3. Don’t buy everything
This is probably one of the most important points. If the child has everything, if he even has no time to dream, if the question” what do you want to get for your birthday ” the baby can not answer, then he “does not have time” to evaluate. He gets everything and is used to taking it for granted. So stop flooding your child with toys! Show that any item is worth money. And you need to spend money wisely and on what you really need. How do you know that a child really needs something? He will talk about this thing every day, dream and remember. And if he gets it, he will feel joy and gratitude!
4. Do not forget to say “thank you”
Children do what their parents do. Moreover, children learn to feel what their parents feel. Grandma brought you a pie or apples-thank you from the heart, and do not just take it to the kitchen. The kid himself prepared a soup of sand and mud for you – say ” thank you, very tasty!” You were given a seat in the subway – thank you with a smile. The child will “absorb” and do the same.
5. Show the value of life
You cooked soup, took the child to the garden or school, helped with lessons, ironed the uniform, bought warm boots… From our adult point of view, all this is very valuable! And the child does not see anything interesting in this. Show your heirs an interesting side of life – amusement parks, animals in the zoo, play pirates in the yard, fill up the slide in winter, buy a hamster, go to the train station and just look at the trains, count the trailers, take the child to their work, tell them about the incredible animals, take them on a trip! When a child knows that there are so many interesting things in life, he understands how valuable it is. You point out things to be grateful for, things that make us happy.
6. The magic word
This “technique” has been working perfectly since the time of our great-grandmothers. Until Vanya says the “magic word”, kefirchik will not appear on his table. Sometimes only the rules contained in the game work.
7. Thank you is nice
Do not force your child to be grateful, do not get annoyed when he does not say “thank you” or does not notice your efforts. So you will awaken in him only a sense of guilt, the child will feel bad because he does not feel gratitude. And for this, he certainly will not say “thank you”, and in the future will do it “from under the stick”. Why do you need such false joy? Better tell your child that when you feel grateful, it makes you happy. It’s nice to thank you! Who wants to deprive themselves of the opportunity to be a little happier?